In an age of constant information, questionable news, and conflicting advice bombarding our inboxes, brains, and families at every corner, I get overwhelmed easily!
I want and need help with all kinds of things the internet provides –
. . . where to stay on vacation,
. . . when to refinance,
. . . what to feed my picky toddler.
I’m sure you can relate!
It gets trickier the more personal the search becomes –
. . . why is my preschooler hitting,
. . . what does anxiety look like in teens,
. . . how much do I tell my child about the divorce?
The information overload can be unbearable, especially in a family crisis.
Maybe you’re like many parents who don’t know what to do with the recent outbursts from your kid at school since the separation. Or maybe your son or daughter suddenly won’t talk to you or seems to be depressed. Maybe your home looks like constant fights since the divorce and you are simply worried about what’s normal and what’s not for your kids.
Maybe you’re a teacher or coach wanting to help with a particularly troubled kid or a grandmother lending a helping hand. Or maybe you’re a kid whose parents have split and you’re wondering what on earth is going on.
Whether you found us through Google, were referred by a friend, or stumbled here by accident, welcome to What About Me.
We are so glad you are here. First of all, we want you to know that you’re safe here.
This is not a place of blame or guilt or fear. You’re likely dealing with enough of that at home and in your workplace, at the park or school.
Our hope is that you’ll know you can come here just as you are to receive the gifts of hope, healing, education, and awareness that we plan to offer.
You can ask questions and share ideas, be broken and unsure. That’s okay. There is no judgment here.
We want to be a resource for you and your children in this tender time.
That being said, I would like to personally welcome you and give you some insight into the person behind these words.
I’m April. I’m a wife, mom, daughter, sister, stepdaughter, stepsister, therapist, writer, and friend.
I’ve known the word divorce almost as long as I’ve known my own name and been a part of a blended family since preschool.
I remember custody battles from childhood and visitation yelling matches from my own driveway.
I got so upset at the age of nine when Sammy, a boy in my 4th grade class, told me that my step-brothers weren’t “real brothers” at the lunch table that I wanted to scream, and I also carried anxiety and fear around as a child like a security blanket.
And I made it through to the other side.
I even went on to learn about and be trained in the very things going on in your own homes with your own children, the very things that shaped my world too-
… family systems
… and anxiety, to name a few.
There are personal stories like mine and yours all over the world at every minute. In fact, in the United States alone, there is a divorce every thirteen seconds.
Roughly 40% of children in the US will experience the divorce of their parents.
The ramifications of that look like more anger, bitterness, and depression in children, learning struggles in school, and poverty.
And yet, there are people, good people here to offer hope.So when I learned of What About Me and the mission, my eyes lit up and my heart beat fast. At WAM, we exist simply to provide hope, healing, and help for children whose parents have a broken marriage.
We want to come alongside those who love these children-
… the parents
and help guide these precious children through the process of overcoming the hurt of divorce.
Here at the blog, you can expect to see a lot of activity from us in the coming months and our range will be a little broader.
Some topics we want to cover are:
How to help yourself to help your kids
Resilience for children
Misconceptions of being a child of divorce
What’s going on for my child
Communication with my child
Anything else you would like us to explore
We want to affirm you in your decision to look for help, however you landed here.
You’ve heard the old adage – “It takes a village” in raising kids. I believe it is absolutely true and is needed even more when the village has been touched by divorce.
Your act of asking questions and looking for resources says to us that you are already loving your child well. We hope only to aid you in that process with an authentic, vulnerable stance and a whole lot of love.
So from all of us here at What About Me, welcome. There is hope, there is healing, and you are not alone.
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