It can be overwhelming to think through all the things our kids needs. This is a guide for knowing where to start. This weekend, I went to a quick parenting seminar at a local church. It was put on by a children’s counseling center in our city, and it felt like getting a good emotional […]
Read More →What’s challenging all year long gets lit up in bright, twinkly lights this season of each year after divorce. How do we get our kids through well and still enjoy the season? “It’s the most wonderful time of the year! It’s the hap-happiest season of all!” The songs really do make it sound […]
Read More →Because of the way our boys are made, there are specific things they need from us as parents that looks a little different than girls and their needs. This is especially important to note when big transitions and life’s emotional earthquakes hit – and for a little boy, separation and divorce certainly register on the […]
Read More →What is it they need from us and what is important for us keep focusing on or not let fall by the wayside? Adolescence. Whew. Big deep breaths. Isn’t it good to be on the other side of it as adults? Thinking back to those turbulent years makes a lot of us squirm or […]
Read More →Sometimes our child’s words are telling us one thing and their voices another. It’s hard to know what to believe but never more important than when you are worried about them and their adjustment post divorce, it seems. “I’m fine.” “It’s fine, really.” “You know, maybe I’ll change my mind, but today […]
Read More →Ultimately, we want all of our children to keep growing, learning, and maturing until they are fully functioning and healthy adults. This is possible, even as we make countless mistakes as parents or have to usher our sweet girls through inevitable hardships. For whatever reason, I always thought we would have daughters. There were […]
Read More →You may not be able to please everyone at all times, but you can do everything with love and compassion. Here are some tidbits, practices, and loose rules for considering yourself, your co-parent, and your children when the complications of divorce and single parenting get extra tricky. As a therapist, one of my fundamental […]
Read More →Predictability would be nice, but unconditional love and compassion is even better. There is a writer and illustrator whose work I have been following for the last several months. It is simple work yet it speaks great volumes, especially about what is going on in our hearts. I love when art has a way […]
Read More →A crash course for helping every kid who thinks your relationship success or failure might be their fault. The Blame Game. It’s all your fault. It’s all his fault. It’s all her fault. Pointing fingers. It is possible that there has been a lot of this going on in your household behind closed […]
Read More →What to do with the worry your kids won’t have healthy relationships and how to set them up to succeed as they go. In the span of two hours this morning, I felt the whole spectrum of emotions with a handful of friends. One friend told me they had been sent a referral for […]
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